“No creature can fly with just one wing. Gifted leadership occurs where heart and head – feeling and thought – meet. These are the two wings that allow a leader to soar.”
P. 26 Goleman, Primal Leadership
After thinking deeply about this quote and having discussed what it means to be a personal of emotional intelligence in class, I have come to a conclusion that Goleman is trying to teach that all effective leaders need intellect in order to soar but in order to fly, leaders must use their intellect to execute a vision by motivation, guiding, inspiring, persuading and listening to others. Those who fail to recognize the fact that you need more than just intellect or "more than just one wing to fly" will not reach their fullest potentials. The combination between head and heart is key. Once one can connect the feelings of others and use their knowledge from previous experiences, great opportunities will arise that will aid in the development of ones unique potential, direction, relationships, and most importantly strengthen ones leadership talents. I heard a pod cast recently that has intrigued me about Stuart Diamond's book, Getting More How to Negotiate to Achieve Your Goals in the Real World. Some of the things that the pod cast touched on were:
1.“Make human contact, people are almost everything in a human negotiation”
2.“Acknowledge the other party’s position and power valuing them”
3.“To think of yourself as the least important person in negotiation”
4. “Ultimately more effective and persuasive, you have to get people to want to do things”
5. “You need to tap into the other person’s emotional psyche with empathy, apologies if necessary, by valuing them or offering them other things that get them to think for clearly.”
6. "Embrace differences"
7. "Establish a relationship with the other person--you start out informal and chatty".
8. "Questions are a great way to collect information"
9. "Focus on the other party and their feelings and perceptions, in stead of on "the deal"
10. "Small talk establishes confort level between people."
These exerts exemplify that Stuart Diamond believes with the quote that we are discusseing. Emotional intelligence and valuing others is important. I hope to have the time to read this book this summer in its entirety as I think it is important as a leader to have a plan on how to negotiate. From what I have read and heard, Stuart Diamond, values others and is in keeping with my personal creedo of "running my race the nice way."
This looks like a finished version! You seem to be grasping the focus of this final section of the class. Technical skills, "competence," as K & P would describe it, are necessary but not sufficient. A successful leader must balance these skills with the EI to empathize, build relationships, and regulate their behavior. Nice job!
ReplyDeleteMr. M I am so sorry I just posted the "finished version" I had to extract a couple more things! Thank you!
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